If you’re single and looking for love, your go to phrases might be I’m waiting for the universe to give me a sign, lady luck isn’t shining down on me, I haven’t found the zing yet, etc. but if you’re Muslim and you happen to be single, all these above phrases immediately change into what if the istekhara isn’t right, I think we click but our religious opinions may be different, I think I will have to settle for an arranged marriage.
Why is it different for Single Muslims?
Why do these statements differ? One may ask. It is because of the boundaries that have been defined by the beautiful religion of Islam. These delicate boundaries serve as guiding principles and provide help to practicing Muslims in their decision-making and daily conduct.
Living in this day and age, where social media messes up with perceptions of self and others, ideologies, ethics, and emulations pose great problems for single Muslims to keep it halal in their relationships. People find themselves walking on a very fine line. On one hand, they struggle to keep up an image that they have created and on the other hand they suffer from imposter syndrome. Meeting potential partners is possible through a multitude of platforms. They don’t even have to be marriage or dating apps or websites. You might even find a potential suitor or start a relationship with someone you meet through other content creation channels. However, if you are seriously interested in marriage and long-term commitment, especially with someone who shares the same religious ideologies as you; then you must head towards the “Halal” marriage and dating websites.
What makes a relationship halal. Easy…it is the intention! If your intention to start the relationship is for it to result in marriage and during the courtship, you don’t engage in anything that is untoward, then your relationship would be considered Halal in the views of enlightened moderation. Why is there a need to keep it Halal? No one will know. If you follow that mindset, then this blog is not for you. The reason why Muslim Singles would want to keep it Halal is that that is what Allah wants of us. He is Omnipotent and Omnipresent. In today’s world of temptation where there are hardly any checks and social evils of all shapes, sizes and forms are rampant. We must learn to protect our Iman and engage in communication through channels that offer some level of scrutiny and balance.
Mindful single Muslims across the globe are heading towards matrimonial and halal dating apps, where they can find thousands of other conscientious Muslims looking for a life partner. They can apply filters to choose a match that is in line with their thought process and preferences. This is possible because of the availability of options that can narrow down your choice in terms of hijabi/non-hijabi, bearded/unbearded, Sunni Muslim/Shia Muslim, location, introductory audio before meeting or sharing details etc. These platforms offer some level of privacy and protection before you are willing to share further personal details with the person on the other end.
At the end of the day, what will matter most, is the willingness to follow the Sunnah and sign a legally binding contract – Nikah. In that too, you are going to be protected by your religion. All of the above-mentioned websites offer advice and counseling through various blogs, videos, and in some cases links to professional counselors. So, if you are ready to change your relationship status and to give it a 100% then go ahead, say “Bismillah” and get started. Best of Luck!
Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min kharyin faqeer.
(My Lord, I am ever needful of any favor that You may send my way.)
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